i stare at boys so much how do they not notice
I stare at my boyfriend all the time, HOW DO YOU NOT NOTICE??
I stare at you. Do you notice?
I always think you’re looking at something else.
A cup of hot tea really heals ur soul this is true science
Actually, a cup of hot anything in your hands mimics human warmth which is said to have calming properties. So, yes, it’s true. Tea mimics the need for human care, touch, and recognition.
im going to cry im so lonely now and all i have is this fucking cup of leaf water
Don’t fear death, fear the state in which you will die.
I was always afraid of Ohio
Who isn’t crazy sometimes? Who hasn’t driven around a block hoping a certain person will come out; who hasn’t haunted a certain coffee shop, or stared obsessively at an old picture; who hasn’t toiled over every word in a letter, taken four hours to write a two-sentence email, watched the phone praying it will ring; who doesn’t lay awake at night sick with the image of her sleeping with someone else?
1. Appreciate your dad, you don’t know what will happen.
2. If you don’t want to wear make up, don’t. For Christ sakes, you’re young and beautiful. Society can go fuck their self.
3. It’s really okay to love yourself. Appreciate the funny curve of your nose, and that gap in your teeth make your smile prettier. Just because you don’t look like that girl in the magazine doesn’t mean you can’t tell yourself you’re beautiful every now and then.
4. Do what makes you happy. I know you’ve heard this a million times, but I can’t stress this enough. Go after your dream job even if it goes against every thing your parents wanted. If you don’t like where you live, move. Your friends don’t make you laugh until your sides hurt? You don’t have to be friends with them anymore. You’re in control. No one else. Don’t fall under the pressure of pleasing people. Please yourself and live for you.
5. Love who you want. Regardless of gender, skin color, or societal views. Please never give up true love because you’re scared. Love is a beautiful, beautiful thing, and if you’re lucky enough to come across it don’t you dare walk away from it because of what others will think. Take the looks, the whispers, and the criticism with a smile, grab your lovers hand, and if you’re feeling extra happy, kiss them for the world to see. Let me tell you, the world is only jealous because they simply can’t understand.
6. Take long showers and lay on your bed naked after, sing too loud, sleep through your classes one day, and another day just don’t leave the couch. It’s okay to just decide you don’t have responsibilities for a little bit. Everyone needs a day ever so often to just relax. It’s okay to be lazy. It’s okay to sleep for 12 hours straight. It’s okay to go to bed at 6 AM because you’re reading and wake up at 3 the next day. Treat yourself, but most importantly love yourself enough to give yourself time to breathe.
7. Alone time is good for the soul. I truly believe that. I think it’s good to cancel your plans sometimes, close your door, turn off your phone, and play some John Mayer (or whatever your prefer). Maybe you could read a book, or hell even write one if you’re up for it. But take some time to yourself and learn to be happy with just you and the sound of your breathing. At the end of the day, you are the only person that is guaranteed to stick around, so you might as well learn to enjoy the way laugh at your own jokes or the way you pronounce words when you read aloud. Being comfortable alone is more important than you know.
8. It’s okay to be 20 and still love Disney movies. It’s not even a guilty pleasure. Everyone has their favorite whether they admit it or not.
9. Do not compromise who you are to impress someone else. You are a wonderfully constructed individual. Your trials, experiences, and life all together have sculpted you into the most lovely version of you possible. If a person doesn’t like the way you live, from your sex life to your music taste, who cares? You were not put on this earth to impress them, or anyone for that matter. Impress yourself. Stick to what you want, stand up for what you believe, and tell people to screw off if they have an issue with any of it. It’s your life.
10. High school does not in any manner prepare you for college. One time my teacher dismissed class early because a kid fell down the stairs and he was laughing too hard to continue the lecture. That’s all I have to say about that subject.
11. I know you’re making a ton of new friends at this stage in your life, but don’t forget whose been there from the start. Your new friends may be exciting and wonderful and the best friends you could imagine but the ones that knew you back in middle school and were still there for you are genuine. If they loved your through your awkward phase, they’re probably in it for the long run. So send some love their way ever so often. When you’re older, you’ll be glad you did.
12. Your mom will probably cry a lot during the next few years. Let her. Hug her. Cry with her. She just wants you happy at the end of the day. You’re growing up, and life’s exciting, but you have to remember that you’re her baby, and the more you find yourself, the more she feels she’s losing you. I know you’re getting older, but so is she. Spend Sunday afternoons telling her about your life or reading her your new poetry. She’ll appreciate that so much, and you will too later on.
13. It’s okay to get drunk. Whether it be just for fun or that you need liquid courage to text an ex, it’s completely fine. And you know what else is completely fine? Not getting drunk. It’s okay to be the mom, the DD, or to not even show up to the party at all. It’s all okay. But you know what isn’t? Judging whatever decisions your peers make. So what there was a photo posted and that girl you went to high school with was wasted? It’s not really any of your business is it. And if that guy decided to go to that poetry reading and skipped the biggest party of the year, It’s really not effecting you at all, so don’t act like it does.
14. Stop glamorizing sadness. Sadness is not beautiful. It does not glow. Disorders are not something to make light of, and scars are not something to be ignored. Be proud of who you are. Eat that hamburger, and put the razor down. And most importantly, smile. Happiness is by far the most beautiful thing about a person.
15. It will all be okay at the end of the day. Life has a funny way of working out.
16. Speaking of funny, life literally never goes as planned. Don’t waste your time fretting over the future. Faith and destiny work hand in hand to make sure life keeps you on your toes.
17. Karma is a real and powerful thing. Please try to keep it on your side. Your bad deeds catch up with you in a big way. Take your time to build up your good karma, and do some good for other people, even if the deeds are small. Put a quarter in an expired parking meter, serve food at a homeless shelter, or go visit an elderly person at the nursing homes. Good deeds are good for others, and good for your soul.
18. You can never go wrong with pizza.
19. Don’t wish your years away. I know you’re at that age where you’re responsible for your choices, but aren’t really considered an adult but you’ll want these years back. Being young is the most fantastic, exciting adventure you will ever endure. And when you get older you’ll wish for these years back, even all the bad days that came along with it. So enjoy your youth, relish in it. Because you will never be younger than you are right this second.
20. And lastly, if you ever feel unloved and worthless, just know I love you and find the upmost worth in you. You’re destined for big things, now go get them.
if you think that professor mcgonagall didn’t love james potter then let me just explain to you how wrong you are because among james’ many talents he was really fan-fucking-tastic at two things: quidditch and transfiguration and those just happen to be mcgonagall’s favorite things so guess what he may have been a little shit but he was her little shit and you know she loved every minute of detention she had to chaperone with him
Mama, he’s everywhere.
He’s in the Willow
that weeps against my shoulders,
tendrils brushing my skin
in a silent apology.
He’s in the setting sun,
bruising the sky with indigo
and its crimson wars.
He’s kissing the horizon goodbye.
He’s in the moonlight,…
y’all can we PLEASE stop using the phrase “slut shaming”?
y’all can we PLEASE stop using the phrase “slut shaming”? Like I know y’alls hearts be in the right place when you say it- you’re usually trying to defend somebody or call-out sexism. But when you say “slut shaming” it is sounds like: “yeah she still a hoe, just don’t say…
The thing is, the label “slut” is applied to any woman or girl who appears to be sexually available, whether she is in fact promiscuous or not. Sure as fuck happened to me, when I was a sheltered clueless virgin at the ripe old age of twelve. Because I had big tits.
So it’s not so much shaming women for what they do, it’s shaming women for what they look like. And for what men want to do with them. It’s projection of the worst sort.
Most of the women who are called sluts do not identify with the term. It’s a way to wound them and keep them in place, to keep them from being comfortable with their sexuality, to take away their sense of self and ownership. To make them be less visible, to make them afraid.
There is an advantage to this from the predators’ end. If the woman loses faith in herself, she becomes insecure and easier to manipulate.
Slut is leveled at women and girls in much the same way “friendzone” is - by bitter people who are upset that a woman expresses any agency whatsoever in how she dresses and how she behaves and who she chooses to spend time with. Women who dare to be free in any way.
Just like friendzone, using the word slut as an insult ultimately says far more about the person using it than about the person they’re attempting to slander.
It reminds me of people (some in my own family) who use the phrase “n——- lovers" to describe other white people who aren’t as racist; it doesn’t do anything to change my opinion of the people they’re describing but it sure as fuck changes my opinion of the speaker, and not in a good way.
Isn’t that the whole point of the word ‘slut shaming’ though? It isn’t short for ‘shaming women who are sluts’, it’s short for ‘shaming women by calling them sluts’.
it doesn’t sit right with me and tbh i think it sounds more like the former. This term is used in all sorts of situations including victim-blaming in cases of rape e.g. Steubenville. I can’t think of a less appropriate situation in which to insert the word slut. So yeah i agree this word needs to go.
It sounds a bit ‘let’s just not mention slurs and they will go away’ to me.
But assuming for a moment that it needs to go: is there any alternative that sums up the same meaning?
I haven’t been able to think of any. I”m still trying to figure out whether it’s a specific subset of victim blaming or in a different category altogether which I also don’t have a word for.
As someone who was heavily involved with Slutwalk and who has seen all the drama that came about just because of the name (from people not realising that the name was a riff of the original Toronto policeman who literally said “if you don’t want to be raped, don’t dress like sluts”) - there’s a lot more happening with the term ‘slut’ than people anticipate.
What constitutes sluttiness is never consistent, by design. In Malaysia you could be branded a slut for wearing a tank top (a female politician got chased out of office for this). You could be branded a slut for turning someone down, or not turning someone down. It’s shorthand for “you are expressing sexuality in a way that I don’t like and therefore I will shame you for it”.
Some people (a lot of people I know, really) embrace the word “slut” and all it connotes because they don’t think sexuality in and of itself should be shameful. Some take on the word “slut” not so much because they identify with it or its connotations but more to say “If you’re going to call me a slut because of who I am and what I do then yes, I’m a slut” - similar to how I’m seeing people reclaim “bossy” or “bitch”. Some cannot and will not reclaim “slut”, but are still affected by slut-shaming, and fight against it however they see fit.
Slut-shaming is a specific form of misogyny; it specifically targets women’s attitudes towards sexuality, whether assumed or actual.
(on a side note: I’m rather dismayed at this current backlash against what gets called “slutwalk feminism” derisively: this notion that feminism and sexuality cannot coexist, or sexuality cannot be used for political liberation. Sexuality has absolutely been a tool for my political liberation, as well as for many others, and a lot of the rhetoric I’ve seen against this seems to be subtly slut-shaming.)